Everything You Need To Know About Solo & Mutual Masturbation

There’s one way to improve your pleasure in bed, and that’s through masturbation.

Masturbation often gets a bad reputation. It’s often seen as something that you would never want to get caught doing (unless that’s your kink)  and that sentiment usually starts when you’re a teenager exploring your body. You frequently hear jokes about masturbation and the assumption that you’re somehow lacking by exploring sex alone. This couldn’t be further from the truth because great sex actually starts with how well you know your body. Think about it: how can you tell someone else what you like, when you haven’t done your own very personal research?

Solo masturbation can help you learn how you like to be touched in the bedroom, and when you recognize what you want, you’re likely to feel more comfortable sharing those desires with your partner … and that’s when the magic happens.

Why is masturbation important?

Stress relief is one of the best side effects of a cum well done, and masturbation for lesbians takes these crescendos to new heights. Orgasms release endorphins – feel-good chemicals that are legit mood boosters.

Besides the pleasurable feelings of being sexually stimulated, and how it improves your experiences with a partner, solo masturbation can have a number of positive side effects. Masturbation can help reduce stress and to release tension. After a solo masturbation session, you’ll be in a state of relaxation that can help you to enjoy better sleep. Solo masturbation can also boost concentration, alleviate pain, and more.

The feeling is mutual

Whether it’s soft and romantic sensual stroking with intense eye contact or hot and heavy fervent finger-popping in the back of a steamy ’99 hatchback, mutual masturbation is embedded in our sexual culture, especially for lesbians. For some couples, it’s the runway to penetrative sex. Some may fly through this moment, anxious to take off. Others linger in the moment, waiting in the wings. For those that REALLY know what’s up, mutual masturbation IS the moment. When you know what you’re doing, mutual masturbation for lesbians is more than just a means to a climactic end. 

What is mutual masturbation?

Mutual masturbation for lesbians can mean one of two things. Masturbation in front of each other (this can happen in person or via video or phone call) or stimulating each other’s erogenous zones. Since we have several (no joke - there are 25-31 erogenous zones on a vagina owner’s body) there are countless ways to stimulate each other and most of these don’t require any penetration. 

Mutual masturbation can be similar to solo masturbation — meaning you could enjoy a masturbation session with a partner during which you each keep your hands to yourself, and allow the other to watch all of the action. Using your hands (and also your favorite toys) on your partner and vice versa is also another fun way to explore mutual masturbation. There is no wrong way to touch yourself or your partner (with their consent) during mutual masturbation, and it can be an excellent learning experience as you get to show your partner exactly how you like it! And in exchange, you pick up some new tricks for pleasing them. 

Another reason why lesbians engage in mutual masturbation is to learn their partner. Mutual masturbation allows for a deep intimacy that simply does not come from penetrative sex alone. Consider the moments after sex and how connected you feel to your partner. Imagine if that feeling was on the way to a mutual orgasm, as opposed to only after. You aren’t just connecting with them, you are also learning the physicality of their body, how they respond to certain touches, and what they like and dislike. The most fun reason mutual masturbation for lesbians gets a star rating is that it is a thrilling way to explore new toys together.

Initiating Mutual Masturbation

Because there is a lot of shame surrounding masturbation, it’s always important to discuss it beforehand. Talk about what you can do to make the experience more comfortable for you and your partner. Discuss likes and dislikes, what you’d like the setting to be like, and any other details to sexy fantasies that can make this an experience that you and your partner will look forward to.

Set the Mood

Setting the mood is essential to any sexual contact. This is most easily achieved through mental stimulation. Send a text, or make a flirty comment on your way out the door to work. Build momentum throughout the day to set expectations. From there, create a physical environment that lets your partner know that you plan on bringing the heat. Candles, nice sheets, incense, music, low lights, snacks, and a libation or two get the vibes going for mutual masturbation for lesbians. Make sure to get any grooming out the way. Clean up your nails and cuticles, removing any rings that could cause problems. Prepare any barrier protection you may need, and double-check that you have enough lube for your session. Have your toys cleaned and laid out, along with several towels. You’re definitely going to need those if things go well. 

Lay out your favorite, most comfortable pillows, and sheets. Play some sexy tunes that’ll inspire some sexy moves. You may even want to dress up for the special occasion by putting on your sexiest outfit.

Setting the mood can help you ease up any tension and may even turn you on! Once you’re in the right headspace, you’ll feel free to indulge in the pleasure of the experience.

Ready for takeoff

Start by touching yourself where you want to touch your partner. Alternatively, try touching yourself how you want your partner to touch you. Checking for consent along the way, explore each other’s erogenous zones. Mutual masturbation for lesbians can mean several touching combinations. Mouths, fingers, and toys can stimulate any erogenous zone or genitalia. Even better, once aroused, they can really get the juices flowing. Think mouth-to-mouth kissing, fingers tracing palms of hands, nipple to nipple touching.

Use Toys

You don’t have to just rely on your hands to do all the sexy work! Pleasure products like vibrators, dildos, strokers, and other intimate accessories can be used to add more stimulation. The Together Couples' Vibrator is perfect for solo masturbation. Its curved shape makes it easy to handle; and with the squeeze of the external arm, it activates the vibration of the arm for internal stimulation.

Getting some external assistance

Adding a toy to the scintillation seems almost unfair. Or maybe it’s a bit of gracious feel-good as a thank you for enduring the daily stress that comes with having a lesbian body. All toys are not created equal, as they all have their strengths and not-so-desirable features, but the overall champion of sex toys for mutual masturbation for lesbians is the Together Couples Vibrator mutual masturbator vibrating sex toy. This completely waterproof vibe has three motors and three speeds that offer ascending intensity from low to medium to high. Its ergonomic shape is designed for couples but is fine for solo rounds. It has two rabbits specifically positioned for clitoral or perineal stimulation. Its mirror image shape encourages and enables eye-to-eye contact during mutual masturbation for lesbians but the most stunning feature is the Echo Function. The Echo Function allows you to feel changes in pressure from your partner and vice versa. When your partner is aroused and starts to pulsate, your end of the Together Couples Vibrator will also start to mirror their pulsation. As your partner gets to the edge, your end of the toy will intensify to match their vibrations. And vice versa.

Communication Is Key

Solo and mutual masturbation could be an excellent tool for improving your sexual intimacy. Don’t feel embarrassed to share the preferences that you discovered during masturbation. During mutual masturbation, you can use communication to make the experience even hotter through dirty talk. Verbally tell your partner what you’re doing — note how you’re touching yourself — is it a stroke? A tap? A circular touch? Rubbing? Describe the sensations that you’re feeling and whether you’d like more or less pressure. That’s sure to turn up the excitement. 

Take It to the Edge

Another fun experiment to try during solo and mutual masturbation is “edging.” This is when you masturbate until the point when you feel that you are about to explode (aka orgasm) and then you back off. The teasing might drive some people wild, but the orgasm that builds up will be worth the sexy torment. Of course, sex isn’t all about the orgasm but climaxing is definitely is one of its benefits. Some experts even recommend edging to individuals that have trouble with orgasms; edging could help to build the desire to orgasm.

Solo and mutual masturbation could be a fulfilling experience in so many ways. Give it a chance and start to own the power that is your pleasure and your birthright!

The next time you and your partner decide to engage in mutual masturbation for lesbians, consider setting your intentions for your play session. Are you getting to know one another, connecting on a deeper level? Are you exploring your bodies and learning your kinks? Are you getting your rocks off to relieve some stress? Maybe you just want to blow your load a few times. Understanding your “why” will let you know exactly how to get your partner to the edge and the Together Couples’ Vibrator will push them over. Over and over again.