8 Best Lesbian Sex Positions
Most people assume that sex between women is intuitive, and it can be. But it can also get super repetitive. If you are just starting out, maybe you think you know what’s up, but once you get going, you may need a little help. In both of these cases, knowing a few go-to positions and having a chat with your partner ensure things will go smoothly. In this article, we will be going over a few tried and true lesbian sex positions that are guaranteed to bring you to the big O.
TOP vs BOTTOM
Sometimes, it’s better to give than to receive. Commonly referred to as “going down” on someone, giving pleasure orally is foreplay considered to be foreplay for some, but by all definitions, it is sex. Very, very good sex. Going down isn’t reserved for any one lesbian sex position, but rather, it can be approached in many ways. Sometimes a power play, and sometimes a show of submission, there are a few approaches to eating pussy.
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QUEENING
This lesbian sex position is all about intent. Sure, the queen straddles her partner’s face and writhes to her heart’s content while the partner uses their tongue nose, and chin to provide pleasure, but knowing which partner is in control isn’t a given. Some partners like to control from the bottom, while others establish dominance by being served. Whichever one is your flavor, this position is a good time for all involved.
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Pretty straightforward, this lesbian sex position is where one partner sits in a chair, and opens their legs while the other partner kneels in front of them (preferably on pillows) and proceeds to go down on them. The partner in the chair could scoot towards the front of the chair, lean back, and put their feet up to give better access. This lesbian sex position is a power play with the submissive partner on the pillows.
EQUAL OPPORTUNITY - 69
Of course, giving and receiving are interchangeable in terms of pleasure. Many partners love to give – as much as, if not more than, receiving. You could switch places in either of the above positions, or you can go with the “ole faithful” 69 positions. Is 69 the best position for lesbian sex? Named so because of the inverse positioning of the bodies (like the numbers 6 and 9) this lesbian sex position gives both partners access to orally pleasure the other’s genitals. There is an equal exchange of power here, and since you give as good as you get, the pleasure is maximized a few times over.
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Only mainstream TV thinks that licking cat is the only thing lesbians do in bed. The truth is, there are several ways to get off and only some of them require penetration. Some positions are great for no matter how you choose to engage.
MISSIONARY
It’s not boring. Stop that. Missionary is a fundamental, yet versatile lesbian sex position that allows access to do several things. In this position, you can mutually masturbate or you can grind against each other (tribadism). This is also a great position to introduce toys. Whether putting a toy between you or sharing a double penetrating dildo like the Together Couples Vibrator – which allows you to feel your partner’s arousal – using toys increases the number of sensations that can help you get to your next big O.
SPOONING
While missionary is a great position to start any number of sensual acts, it can be a bit daunting to figure out where all the arms and legs go as you figure out the best way to stimulate your partner in different places. Spooning is a solution to this. It allows partners to maintain intimacy while having access. The partner in the back can reach forward to massage the partner in the front’s nipples, clitoris, or any other erogenous zones. The partner in the front can help by opening their legs a bit or putting one knee forward. They can also reach backwards to finger their partner. For intimacy, this is a lesbian sex position that allows for conversation, cuddling, and aftercare.
SCISSORING
While the other lesbian sex positions are fairly relaxed, scissoring requires putting in some work. Hailed a myth by some lesbians and the best. thing. ever. by others, this position is somewhat of an anomaly. Originally thought to be the brainchild of cishet male fantasies, scissoring is essentially aligning the bodies so that the two partners can rub vulva-to-vulva. This involves some major flexibility, a little bit of arm strength, creativity, and a big sense of humor. The truth is, you may not ever get it right with one partner, and nail it with another. Even more humbling, you may get it right once with a partner, and never again with that same partner. It’s definitely worth giving it the old college try, but you may need to try several times before getting it right.
There are so many lesbian sex positions to try, and these are a few fun fundamentals to get you started. The most important thing is to enjoy yourself and your partner, continue to check-in for consent and know that there is no “right” or “wrong” way to do anything. There is just the way that works for you and yours.